Wednesday, September 5, 2012
To My Fellow Atheist
1) there is NO community. it is like watching a small group of people at the top stepping on and walking over each other to see what more they can do to "out atheist" the others within.
2) They majority are out for REAL change. They want to make a difference, they DO make a difference, and good on them. They do not seek out the attention, they just see what needs to be done and they do it!
3) A few (I can count on both hands) are in the "SEE ME" category! "See me?! Look what I can do!" EVERY THING points back to "SEE ME AND WHAT I DID?!" I roll my eyes every time I see their post.
4) We have a lot of whiners. Either change it, or shut up.
5) Jumping on the bandwagon. "Oh look, that person is getting some attention, I think I will jump on their bandwagon and steal a little thunder." Even if it is not anything with which I agree, approve, or am really that passionate about, I just want the attention you are getting, so let me jump on your bandwagon!"
Then you have the rest who just sit back and watch and wonder if it's even worth it? I saw all of this within the churches as I was growing up. Power hungry people going at it until they reach the top only to tumble down quickly. Is it worth it? Ripping people within the community up left and right because they do not agree with your brand of thinking? HEY! Just like church! It all is and has been looking dubious to me for a while now. I have always been atheist (even when young and living in a preacher's home I was an atheist, just did not know what it was called!) I will always be atheist. I have many ups and downs in my life and dealt with them well without a god. In fact, I dealt with them better. However, I do like to surround myself with strong, caring, giving, loving people who are not always attention seeking or angry. It ills me and stresses me to see what was once a group of folks making change for the better (in my opinion) start becoming attention seeking power hungry people. Is it weird I feel this way? Am I the only one?
Those who are making real change, I do not want them to fail, you are doing such a wonderful job. Those who just want to be seen and admired, shame on you. You do nothing for the cause.
Sunday, January 1, 2012
Thank You for Coming Out!
Monday, December 12, 2011
Through Her Mother's Eyes
Sunday, December 11, 2011
Fuck U.S. Customs and Border Patrol!
Sunday, July 3, 2011
A Young Man's Voice!
"We come in numbers to the polls, children of those you threw out. We come in numbers to say 'NO MORE'. No more will you rip our families apart. Now it is OUR turn, and we will rip you apart at the polls, every election, every time. We will be heard!"
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
So many tears...
Saturday, March 5, 2011
Why Do We Home School?
I have been asked for years why we home school our children. We are a secular family and most home school families are Christian. I am happy to see the secular home school groups sprouting up all over the United States recently. Have you seen the state our public school system is currently in? Our math and science is sorely lacking, as is our grammar! Very few students can remember what they are taught from week to week, once they pass that test, the slate is wiped clean. I am a product of public schools and I think it is safe to say I had four very good teachers who inspired me and pushed me to do my best in my twelve years of school. I never really learned anything in school during those years, most of my learning came after school when my father and mother would take time through out the evening to talk to me, read to me, tell me about history, show me how math is used in the real world. I wish home school had been legal back when I was young. My years spent in school was spent in complete agony. I was constantly in the bathroom hiding out from emotional bullies, more days then not I could be found somewhere crying. I hated school, and worse, it hated me. It wasn't enough I got it from a lot of the students, but some of the teachers were emotionally abusive as well. I decided I would not put my kids through that. Twice my son was enrolled in public school, both times it was a nightmare, for him and us. The first time the teacher refused to let my son go to the bathroom and he came home daily with urine stained underwear. Then something major happened, he started defecating in his pants. Seems the teacher had made it a point not to let him go, and he held it day in and day out that he became impacted! He was referred to a gastroenterologist who told me it was a common thing among teachers and it made her angry to no end. He was on medication for a year before it was straightened out, and still suffers ill effects of that first 6 months in 1st grade many years ago. We filed a lawsuit against the school district and the teacher. They settled out of court, paying all of his medical bills and medications as well as monetary damages. The teacher told me what a huge mistake I was making when I pulled him, I would never be able to home school. How wrong she was! I had as much, actually more education than she did, I had his best interest at heart, I could not possibly do any worse than the public school did with him. We tried again in high school only to watch him fall further behind, or repeat what he had already accomplished.
I bought secular curriculum, same as you find in the public schools, and got busy. We found home school social groups, co-ops, and nearby universities who offered extras such as science lab, classes in robotics, speech and drama, and world history. We had him in Earth Scouts, drama classes and art classes at the local Art museum, and 4H and Irish dance. He took years of Taek won do. We taught him music and let him play in sessions locally so he could learn about his favorite music. We went on field trips both as a family and part of our home school group. We contacted universities and asked for dvd's of professors who gave lectures on subjects on which we were covering. we traded "tutor time" with other parents who had expertise and degrees in areas that we did not. I would teach their children Languages and world history, they would teach mine Algebra. It was a well rounded education. If he was interested in a subject, we could let him run with it, spending more time on it and then we would move on.
Socialization was an issue until we realized or children's social skills far outweighed their public school peers. They could socialize with people of all ages, carrying on an intelligent conversation with a 40 year old, or a 10 year old. We had more socialization than public school kids, because we had more time! when you home school, you find that you do not need 8 hours a day to teach all subjects, and that learning is an ongoing process and goes on long after the books and workbooks are put away.
My kids are read to on a regular basis. they are encouraged to help build things with their father, using that opportunity to give math drills, to cook in the kitchen with me or dad again, using math skills. They learned to balance a checkbook, and do their taxes before the age of 10. They love to read and our little ones are just as likely to read you a story as they are to ask for a story. Our older son is involved in reading classics right now, and is animated as he describes what he thinks the writer was trying to say. He is very aware of the political goings on in the US and around the world and is free to form his own opinions. I like the way this is going, I am glad we decided to go the route of home schooling. Now when people ask why we home school, I can sum it up in just a few sentences:
We home School because public education, as currently implemented, is designed to systematically drive the joy of learning out of children as early as possible: tedious homework; fixed class periods that are rarely just the right length for learning the material; disjoint subjects that obfuscate the relationship between information and useful real-world applications; stressful tests and quizzes; segregation by age and ability; severely limited selection of potential friends, typically 12 years of the same group of 30 kids; limited control over such basic functions as when to awaken, eat or urinate; KIDS SITTING, for HOURS. It's amazing anyone learns anything at all, despite this contrived, convoluted, Byzantine environment. I admire teachers, but they are just as limited and victimized by the strictures of the system as students. The only moderately legitimate purpose school appears to serve is to warehouse children during the day, so parents can work more hours, thereby facilitating payment of school taxes and summer camp bills.